Alrighty. This is something that I need to get out there and off my chest.
Sometimes people have different parenting styles and that’s okay. Having never been a parent before I don’t know what it is actually like, but I have worked with children under 5 long enough to know how to manage behaviour effectively.
But what happens when you see someone disciplining a child that isn’t their own, and you genuinely disagree with the way they are doing it? I will respect the privacy of the people involved and not mention names.
Personally, when I see a child who is distressed about being left in childminding, I instantly go for the comforting approach and do everything I can to make them feel safe with me. Because they are safe with me, and I take pride in my work. I put my heart and soul into my job.
Today was different. I wasn’t able to do this, and it broke my heart. Not only that, but the way the child’s distress was handled made me uncomfortable and I wanted to leave.
I know I am being very vague, but this isn’t intended to in any way make anyone look bad. I know this person is very good at their job and I respect that they know a lot more than me having had children themselves. But this just didn’t feel right.
I wanted to share this to see if anyone has had the same experience, or has any advice about how I should deal with this in the future. I don’t want to start any fights, and my only motive is to make sure the children are made as safe and happy as possible.
Thanks so much for your support friends.